Man slammed for wanting to be involved in granddaughter’s life
Commenters criticized a man for reentering his son’s life after learning about his daughter and wanting to be an involved grandparent.
The anonymous man, known as u/Davidthroaway, posted about his situation in Reddit’s popular “Am I The A**hole” forum where it received more than 8,000 upvotes and 500 comments. The post can be found here.
In the post titled “AITA for publicly telling my biological father that if he wanted to act like my dad then he had until I was thirty-two to do so?” the man said his mother died a few months after he was born and his father Dan left after six years. He said Dan left him with his grandparents while he remarried and moved across the country with his new wife.
He said that although Dan left, he adored him and viewed him as his hero for years. But when he didn’t call to wish the man a happy 13 birthday, he repeatedly called Dan’s house only to have Dan’s wife Sarah answer. When Dan found out, he allegedly screamed at his son saying he “deliberately” attempted to ruin his marriage and that he is “selfish” for “always demanding his time.”
Years later, the man says he has a good job, a wonderful wife, and a daughter named Harper. He added that although he hasn’t thought about Dan for a long time, he started receiving social media notifications from him. The man said he messaged Dan and told him he has “no right” to try to act like Harper’s grandfather and told him to stay away from his family.
The man replied to Dan’s comment saying that if he wanted to act like his dad, he had 32 years to do so and has no right to “pretend” he’s a great father or grandfather after moving across the country when he was 6.
After blocking Dan’s other account, the man said he learned that Dan will likely delete the account because he is being “shamed online.”
“Family members said I was right about Dan but calling him out online was not the mature way to handle things,” the post read. “I realize I could have just blocked him, but for me, you don’t get to ditch your kid and then swoop in to act like a family man now that it suits you. AITA?”
More than 500 users commented on the post, many supporting the man’s decision to not let his biological father into his or his daughter’s life.
